Mindful Communications..

What is Mindful Living??

Embracing Life..... Mindful Living.... Who gets to decide if I'm paying attention to my experiences.

What happens when we disagree,get angry, engage in office gossip letting mindfulness fly out the window.

Forgetting about the persons feelings dealing only with the problem with both of us wanting to be right about the other being insensitive.

I was faced with this experience just yesterday. I was in conflict with a friend and my living a mindful life was being challenged.

I reacted in several ways as his words floated around my ego...my emotions from past relationships and disappointments... and how I might be regarded in his eyes..

He acted as if he was right??... Did it matter if he questioned my integrity??

Do I NOW hold up the mirror in judgment attemting to discredit his actions..

After a 5 min game of who can push the reactive button the hardest doing the most damage. I remembered that no matter what I am responsible for my actions and choice of words when in communications.

I didn't want to be responsible for saying something in anger I would regret so I choose to simply tell the truth .. I would talk about this when I was less angry.

That was the most compassionate choice for both of us.

I asked myself why his questions made me angry...I knew my intentions were without
malice. I didn't need to defend myself.

So I choose to embrace this as information and choice based on his experience.

Not him judging me...And I know that I didn't intend to cause harm.

His angry words were not my truth.. So no need to respond back in anger..

Were my actions and behavior's grounded in compassion, empathy and love.. No not completely.

But I can say my actions were in the moment the very best they could be.. And the rest is just information.. NO RIGHT ....NO WRONG...NO JUDGMENTS....

Knowing that we both learned something about what's hurtful to the other. Which provides a deeper level of connection. And that conflict can be experienced without harshness.. Compassionate confrontation...

Means opening the door to caring for another in a gentle way even when you don't like the behavior,actions or situation.

Being willing to separate the action or behavior from the person. Knowing that it doesn't define either one of you... Staying in the relationship when it's not fun,exciting or rainbows... Being mindful to the knowing of what there heart holds..

Remembering those moments of the soul you have shared when words cant describe an experience you shared together.

Living in the knowing of what unconditional love really means.. A willingness to trust the relationship... More than taking the lead in the ego dance of being right.

BELOW IS A VERY PRACTICAL ARTICLE ON WHAT I CONSIDER MINDFUL

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Living Mindfully this Holiday Season...